Sex Advise: Creating Sound During Sex

Question: I tend to moan and groan a lot when I have an orgasm. I feel really good and I just can't help it. The last girl I had sex with told me to keep quiet but I just couldn't. Is this normal?

Answer: Yes, this is quite normal. Often it is difficult for some people to "keep quiet" during sex. You can even experience involuntary vocal tics during sex which may sound like grunts.

Sex Advise: Masturbating With Ladies Underwear(Panties)

Question: Sometime back I had an urge to wear girls panties.One day I was at my cousins house and I stole a pair of her panties. When I reached him I wore the panties and I instantly got an erection. I continue to masturbate and ejaculate on them. Is there anything wrong with this? I have the same urge again but I don't want to steal some more of my cousins panties. I can't go to a regular store and buy some because I feel embarassed. I would like to know if there are any men's underwear that feel exactly like girls panties, preferably the low rise cotton thong panties?

Answer: It might be a bit unusual to take your cousins panties and masturbate with them. However, I'm not going to go as far as to say that it is abnormal or illegal. However, stealing more things will eventually get you caught and cause real embarassment. There are all types of men's underwear on the market. I've seen men's cotton briefs that look like bikini bottoms. And these are available. Even regular department stores stock these brands. The fact is that a lot of guys like the feeling of the low-cut bikini briefs so they must sell them somewhere in men's departments.

Sex Advise: What is the Taste Of Sperm?

Qnswer: I am a 23 year old guy and my girlfriend loves it when I ejaculate in her mouth and she even swallows all my sperm. And also, I have the urge to swallow my own cum when I am alone and masturbating. Is this common? How does sperm really taste? My girlfriend says mine tastes good.

Answer: Most guys who masturbate regularly have tasted their own semen at some point. Some guys do it regularly. It is totally safe to eat your own semen. Probably more people taste their own semen than actually admit to doing it. It feels quite warm. Semen normally tastes salty like ocean water.

Sex Advise: Masturbating By Finger-In-Ass

Question: I have always wanted to try the "finger-in-ass" masturbation because I have heard that it greatly increases the orgasm and ejaculation. Is this true? How is the best way to go about it?

Answer: This is true for many men. However, there is no "best" way to do it. You can use your own fingers or sex toys to enhance your experience. My advice is to (1) take a shower before touching your anus (2) Also, use lubrication when trying anal masturbation. Most people say KY Jelly or other water based products are the best anal lubricants. Household cooking oils are also safe but they can be thick, messy and difficult to wash off.

Sex Advise: What Is Minimum and Maximum Time for Sex

Question: What should be the minimum and maximum time a man should spend with a girl while having sex?

Answer: Minimum time: 40 seconds (I think that's the record). -- Maximum time: 18 days (I think that's the record). Actually this is something a man should discuss with the woman with whom he is having sex. Some women love quickies but most women like it to take a little more time than it takes for the average male to ejaculate. Men normally average around 5 minutes before then have an orgasm while women average about 15 minutes (or more) before they orgasm. Sexual relationships should take Time, Care, Communication, and Love (TCCL).

Sex Advise: Cum On Girlfriends Face and Mouth

Question: I like to cum on the face of my girlfriend or in her mouth. Is this normal behaviour?

Answer: It is normal if you and more importantly, if your girlfriend is OK with it. Ask her whether she likes it or not. If she does, then don't worry about it. If not, maybe you should findout what she likes and do that.

Sex Advise: Beating Wife Before Sex

Qnswer: I love my wife very much and we have great understanding. But I have this peculiar problem that is creating trouble in my marital life that I just cannot resist myself from beating my wife when I see her naked. And after that, I really enjoy having sex with her. But somewhere inside my heart, I know that this is wrong and I am not treating my wife properly. Can you help me out?

Answer: It's called Sado Masochism. In this particular fetish, people being enjoyed tied up and being beaten with whips etc. Most psychologists agree that if the beating is mild with no grave injury to any of the consenting adults, the behaviour is okay. Many men and women are into this particular fetish. In your case, you seem to enjoy beating your wife violently, which needs to be controlled. Talk to your wife and work on a compromise.

Sex Advise: Stop and Go Method

Question: In some of my recent experiences, I have ejaculated within 45 seconds to a minute of oral sex. What can I do to stop this? Will I be able to give pleasure to women as I grow older?

Answer: It's normal for younger men to ejaculate faster. This will naturally change as you get older. However, there are ways to prolong sexual activity prior to orgasm. There are a few techniques to prevent premature ejaculation. One is to stop having sexual contact just long for your body to relax, then begin again, stop when you are about to orgasm and then begin again. Do this with your partner several (or many) times. This training technique is called the "stop-and-go method". Just be patient as things won't normalise over night.

Sex Advise: Higher Sex Drive - Male or Female?

Question: Who has a higher sex drive -- males or females?


Answer: The testosterone hormone is responsible for the majority of the sex drive in humans. Both the male and female produce testosterone but however, males produce more testosterone than women. So theoretically speaking, men should have higher sex drives due to this fact. However, sex drive is also influenced by many factors like eprsonality, adrenaline, mood and past experiences. Therefore, it is possible for some women to have higher sex drives than their male counterparts

Sex Advise: Kissing Problem

Question: I am afraid to kiss girls because I am bad at it. How do I overcome that?

Answer: Whoever told you that you are bad is wrong. Just be gentle. Any decent girl will be just as nervous as you are. You will improve just by getting experience with an understanding partner. And there is no hurry. Believe it or not, there will always be girls to kiss.

Sex Advise: Jerking Off Together

Question: Me and my friends five of us watch porn together in our house, and sometime we use to jerk off together watching porn. I want to know, 'Is this Normal'?

Answer: The thing you are doing is absolutely normal and it is what most guys do normally. It is normal as long as you think it is normal. If you are... for some unknown reason feeling guilty of it then its not normal. It is your personal decision to engage in such activities. It's OK as long as you are OK with it.

Sex Advise: Suck Cock or Licking Pussy Harmful?

Question: Hi me and my husband loves to have sex daily and even more. My Question is whether sucking his cock or licking my pussy harms us anymore. We are good in our hygiene.

Answer: Continue your sex life. Nothing is harmful in sucking or licking.

Sex Advise: Weight Lifting Effect Penis Size

Question: Does weight lifting effect penis size at all could it make it smaller or bigger or could it make it thicker.

Answer: No. There is no relation between lifting weights and genital size. It is actually related to the side effects of using steroids. Lots of weight lifters taking steroids have experienced genital problems. This has nothing to do with weight lifting. Just make sure you stay away from steroids.

Sex Advise: Worried Girlfriend

Question: My boyfriend and I have a perfect relationship and our sex life is great as well, but now that we've moved in together, I've noticed that he masturbates during the night, when he thinks I'm sleeping. He does it, maybe, 3 times a week. Does this mean I'm not fulfilling his sexual needs? I almost feel obligated to have sex more often so he won't have to masturbate, but I do know it's normal. Am I just worrying too much?

Answer: Yes, you are worrying about it too much, but there is a reason for your worry. If you feel excluded or rejected, you may wish to include yourself in his masturbation. Rather than confront him with your concern, it might be more productive to take an an active interest in it (if you feel inclined to do so). If you have no interest in his masturbation, leave it at that, and let him do it by himself. If he is extremely embarrassed by your interest, you might want to leave it go. Do not make this issue a major issue in the relationship. It sounds like your relationship is good and his masturbation three times a week leaves lots of room for a healthy sex life. You're not being a bad partner at all. It sounds like to me like you are genuinely concerned.

Sex Advise: Masturbating 2-3 times a day

Question: I am a 26-year-old man. I have been masturbating since 8-9 years for as frequently as two-three times a day. So far, I've not been in a physical relation with anybody. But, since one year, I am encountering sexual weakness and my penis is not lifting properly. Please help me as I am getting married within a year.

Answer: You should see a sex specialist for a proper diagnosis and management of recently acquired erectile deficiency.

Sex Advise: Premature Ejaculation

Question: I am a 35-year-old, unmarried man. I have never had sex and am masturbating since I was 20. I masturbate very frequently and ejaculate just in minutes. Now that I am engaged and would soon get married, I am scared that I won't be able to satisfy my wife. Shall I stop masturbating until I get married or seek a sex expert's opinion? Please suggest.

Answer: It will be good to consult a sex specialist (urologist specializing in sexual disorders) before going in for marriage. Stopping masturbation for sometime is not a bad idea.

Sex Advise: Wife's Reduced Sex Drive

Question: I am perturbed over my wife's reduced sex drive. She says that she do not feel like involving in a sexual act. I am not able to convince her for it. Could you please suggest some tablet or any other way to deal with this problem?

Answer: For improving the sexual desire of your wife you must go for counselling for a better understanding of your own personality so as to become a better husband and a better home-maker. Any positive change in your personality will improve her sexual drive. There are no medicines and no short cuts for increasing female libido.

Sex Advise: My Wife is not Attractive

Question: I am a married person with two kids (2 1/2 years & 6 months old respectively). Ours is an arranged marriage. My problem is that at the time of my marriage I did not meet my wife and just saw her picture. It was my family who convinced me to marry her. I don't know how I have accepted her. I love my kids very much but the problem is I really do not find my wife attractive. I do not feel like making love with her as she is very reserved and doesn't talk too much. On the other side, I am a very jolly and fun-loving person who wants to enjoy life to the fullest. I do not know what to do and feel like killing myself due to all this. I want to develop relation with an attractive lady. Please suggest.

Answer: You cannot get all the things at the same time. You have to make a choice between the love for your children and your love for funny love-making. Instead of going for a girl friend try to create fun time with your children and involve their mother to enjoy as well. A girl friend at this stage will certainly wreck the family and you will be loosing the children for nothing.

Sex Advise: Fear of Getting infected with HIV

Question: I am a 27-year-old guy who had a lot of sex-encounters in the recent past. My problem is whenever I have sex with someone, I fear of getting infected with HIV. I often remove my condom and perform a water test to check if it is leaking. One of my friends suggested me to wear a double condom with zandu balm in between for protection. Can I do that? I am totally confused, as I can't resist sex every night.

Answer: Double condoms can enhance the protection against HIV. A layer of balm in between is likely to leak out and cause painful irritation to healthy vagina or the foreskin - troublesome to both the parties with no surety that it further enhances the safety provided by the condoms or that it prevents the spread of AIDS to the partner who does not cry. The best prevention for a sex maniac from acquiring AIDS is marriage in order to avoid multiple partners.